There are many reasons why having a bestie is super awesome and important.

Being alive is hard y’all. There’s responsibilities and expectations and requirements. And that’s all a bit overwhelming.

Also – even if we travel through this space we call life with people who are close to us, we rarely find ourselves in the company of someone who was there during our formation.

Why is that important? Well, I mean, that’s EVERYTHING. Who we are now started with who we were back then, and the experiences and people that informed it. Having someone who knows that history – EVERYTHING.

My bestie and I have never spent a whole week together. She and I were “in-person friends” for only four years before I moved away from Pennsylvania to Maryland. But despite the lack of internet back in those days, we kept in touch with old fashioned pen and paper.

We didn’t always do a great job of that. I mean, college/being out in our own in particular was a clusterfuck. But we never fully lost touch. I went to her wedding. She came to mine. I held her eldest baby girl the day she was born. I rocked her younger son just a few weeks after he entered this world. I was there just days before her husband passed away.

And we talked, and chatted, and messaged from time to time through the years. But I’m not sure I ever fully understood or appreciated the relationship.

Then I decided to go for a week this spring to stay with her. I was nervous. Would it be okay? Would we get along? Would we get on each other’s nerves?

I can’t speak to her experience, but mine was amazing. We didn’t do anything exciting or special. We crafted, she worked, we went out to dinner, we visited her parents, we listened to YouTubers. But it was relaxing and satisfying and comfortable.

I can’t remember the last time I’ve had a week that made me so happy, made me so comfy, made me so SEEN.

Again – someone who has known you for so long KNOWS you, and you know them. It was one of the happiest weeks I’ve had in a long time, being with someone who understands you in ways no one else ever will. It’s so funny how, even though we are very different, we have SO MUCH in common.

I’ll admit, it was hard leaving. Vacation is always nice, but this was more than that. This was like finding the home you didn’t even realize you were missing.

So I encouraged you all – if you have relationships you haven’t necessarily been attending to – go look at those. Are you missing out on something? Don’t take those things for granted. They can literally be one of the most precious things in your life.